I moved out of my family home in June last year. Mostly because I wanted to experience what it would be like to live by myself in the city. Technically I do not live alone, I have three roommates but by Indian standards that is as alone as you can get at this stage in life. Living anywhere apart from your family home in the same city is practically unheard of.
Often my colleagues ask me where I live and when I share about my living situation I get quite a few hilarious responses. Most of them are awed and are like I can’t believe your family allowed you to do that kind of thing. (How I managed to convince my folks is a whole other post) Others eye me suspiciously wondering what I did to malign the honor of my family and lead them to discard me from my only rightful place in society. And the rest just try their best to not look jealous but fail miserably.
Living like this is great. Most of the times at least. Sometimes it does not feel too good to be b yourself, outside of your comfort zone, away from people who love and care about you no matter what. But that’s only when you’re too sick (home sick and otherwise.)
Most of the times living by yourself is a crash course on life. And I learnt many things in these few months:
1. Having clean, ironed clothes to wear in the morning is a reason to celebrate
2. Planning for your next meal and actually cooking it are two independent phenomena
3. You become a pro at having invigorating and life-changing conversations with yourself
4. You can play all the bad music you’re too embarrassed to listen to in public, as loud as you want
5. Crying does not need to happen in the bathroom anymore
6. You understand what all the fuss around maids was all about. (“What the maid isn’t coming today!” *glass shattters*)
7. Roommates become adopted family members
8. Now that you can come home as late as you want to, you go to bed at ten on most nights
9. You listen more to the voices in your head and sometimes it is a good thing. Only sometimes.
10. You learn to be responsible. And try not to be weird about it.
11. You can have all the alone time you want
12. You can buy all sorts of forbidden stuff and keep it in plain view ( No I do not own a dildo, you rotten mind)
13. You discover disturbing things about yourself that in interest of world peace you keep to yourself
14. You can have the most weirdest things and pass them off as meals (uncooked maggi, one banana, three biscuits and almost a liter of water = dinner)
15. You can change anywhere and in front of anyone without feeling a thing
16. Sleeping anywhere, anytime is your new superpower
17. Most importantly,you learn to be independent and look out for yourself